It's not all about your looks

We’re sure you’ve read about it. Heidi Montag, half of the infamous “Speidi” and married to one of the biggest douches west of the Rockies, recently underwent 10 surgical procedures in one fell swoop to allegedly “become the best [her].” That got us thinking about looks, insecurities, and dating.

We aren’t going to opine whether Heidi’s decision to undergo all that plastic surgery was right or wrong. It’s her body and to each their own. But we’ll say this much – most people would agree that Heidi had that hot girl next door thing going on before all the surgery and now that she’s gone under the knife, she’s had all sorts of judgment thrust upon her. After the surgery and her interview in People, the coverage focused on how her low self-esteem led her to plastic surgery. That perception of low self esteem, whether true or not (only Heidi knows for sure), makes her less attractive in a way that not even the best plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills can ameliorate.

There is no woman who is completely satisfied with her looks all of the time. Admit it – sometimes the inner schoolgirl comes out and you start wishing that your boobs were bigger, your lips were fuller, your nose were straighter, or maybe your eyes were bigger. As single women, it’s easy to start thinking the reason you’re still single is because you’re simply not attractive enough to land your Mr. Right.

But your mother had it right when she said “it’s what’s inside that counts.” We’ve met plenty of gorgeous-looking women in our day who were so unattractive on the inside that it completely voided any points they got because of their outward beauty. An unintelligent, insecure or judgmental chick is still unintelligent, insecure, or judgmental even if she’s got a pretty mask on her face or DDD boobs that temporarily distract from her inner unsightliness. More importantly, looks, unlike your inherent qualities, fade over time and it is unfeasible for even the most renown plastic surgeon to make outward beauty everlasting (think Joan Rivers).

Bottom line, there are plenty of chicks who are less attractive than you who are in relationships. And there are also plenty of women who are more attractive than you who are single. It’s not all about looks. If you view yourself holistically, you have your intellect, personality, and a slew of other qualities that comprise your total being. It is the sum of your parts that truly matter and a guy worth snagging (i.e., any guy looking for more than a one night stand), knows this. You’re kidding yourself if you think that better looks alone stand between you and a relationship.

Ladies! Go ahead and buy your makeup. Have fun with clothes. But keep in mind that all this external stuff just enhances what genetics already granted you. You are gorgeous without makeup (and any man would agree you look great without your clothes, too!). Take a cue from Cinderella - if she had been insecure at the ball and acted like a wallflower, she’d still be a single maid catering to three very despicable women. So, if you want to make a quick fix to boost your desirability, toss that plastic surgeon’s business card and instead simply choose to be confident – it’ll make you glow from the inside out and trust us, men will notice.